Role of Courtship in Building a Longer Lasting Relationship

The period of Courtship for two individuals in love with each other plays a vital role in building a longer lasting relationship than many civilizations will want to give credit and attach importance to.

What is rife is falling in love one moment and then living in the next moment. This can be traced to the easy permissiveness that has permeated the moral fabric of our society and the community we live in bringing such levels of degradation and moral depravity fiction books should feature.

Aside of getting to meet that young man or young lady that makes your world turn 'rainbow' over and over, melts your heart with the touch of love... there is every need to get to know each other in a more responsible way than the average knowing that will suffice for any fleeting acquaintance.

Communication in relationship building is such an essential tool that both partners will need to master and deploy at every available opportunity. The time of courtship presents the couple with such a golden opportunity in getting familiar with each other.

Courtship is a time whereby you get to meet and begin relating with each other in such a way and at such a level that will enable you move from the position of strangers to being intimate friends.

One mistake many couples who are into Courtship make from time immemorial is spending this period to go on dates such as taking strolls/walks in the garden, going to the movies, day dreaming about one another, writing and sending love messages in form of letters, poems, flowers, presents, etc.

As much as all these are necessary, many delay till a later time especially when they have both finally tied the 'nuptial knot' to become husband and wife before taking out time to discover their spouse.

This alone explains why there is so much resentment when the couples begin to discover how incompatible they both are in the love relationship turned marriage. They both feel trapped and doomed to a life of misery and unsatisfied desires, hopes and aspirations.

In many instances, this marks the beginning of many surprising discoveries about their 'better half'.

Time that could have been spent in asking each other important questions about likes and dislikes, favorite colors, your partner's views on issues such as in-laws, friends, joint savings account, number of children desired, mood swings, to mention a few is expended on 'enjoying life' during the period of courtship.

As much as you might want to enjoy life with your heartthrob during courtship going on dates, sightseeing, being in each other's company for as long as time and opportunity will allow, one very important thing you should do is get to meet and know your lover's real and true self by asking questions.

Waiting until you are finally joined in matrimony as husband and wife may simply prove late.

Courtship is an essential season in a relationship that opens your eyes and feeds your mind as you get to know and understand your partner even though your heart is overwhelmed with love.

This way, you stand a better chance of building a longer lasting relationship seeing you will have had sufficient time to determine and ascertain the extent of compatibility that exists between the two of you.

This alone can save you a lot of heartache and disappointment in later years to come if you make the mistake of entering into agreement in marriage with your spouse.

Courtship allows you determine the extent of your compatibility and equally informs you whether to continue or end the relationship at whatever stage it has reached.

Marriage is to be celebrated and life with your partner enjoyed to the full rather than having to tolerate each other the remaining days of your life imprisoned in marriage.
Fallout occurs and divorce is imminent.

Handling the period of your courtship well cannot be overemphasized. It is one good opportunity to do all the checks and balances, additions, subtractions, and equally provides you valid time to make the right choice and take the appropriate decision in life about the relationship you have going with your partner before you enter into a lifetime commitment together married as husband and wife.

To build a longer lasting relationship, utilize the period of your courtship well -ask questions, get to meet and know your partner and ascertain the level of your compatibility together first.

How to Impress a Hot Woman Without Spending Money - My 3 Favorite Male Qualities (These Are Sexy!)

Okay guys...let's talk some more about how to impress a hot a woman! I mean, let's be TOTALLY honest. If you surveyed most men's most secret desires...the number one steamy desire that all guys have is to seduce beautiful women! And who wouldn't....there is NOTHING more beautiful (even to other girls..:-) than a magnificent and exotic woman! With that in mind, let's take a quick look at some easy things you can do to become INTANTLY more attractive..without having to win the lottery, get a promotion or live in the gym! Read on..:-)

Filed Under: The Cultivation of the 3 Secret C's

There are 3 qualities that women look for in a man, that, absent any other of the obvious attraction factors (like looks and money) STILL make him irresistibly attractive. Confidence is number 1. Charisma is number 2. And Character - the quality that makes you WANT to bring him home to mom and dad is what ties is all together.

Filed Under: The Anatomy of Confidence, Charisma & Character

So many men get this COMPLETELY wrong. Confidence has NOTHING to do with being loud...or obnoxious, or even OBVIOUS! Confidence, the SEXIEST quality in a man can be equally as compelling when it says NOTHING at all. Ask any woman - or even any MAN, who identify a guy in the room whose got confidence...and it's undeniable to all.

Remember guys, a woman wants to have fun! And the ability to make her (and everyone else) laugh is as charismatic as it gets....and the very best way is to be able to laugh at yourself! Fact: A man who can laugh at himself has AMPLE confidence and the charisma to boot to face up to ANY woman in the room and simply make her melt with his words....his movements and his mojo in general! And that is what my definition of sexy is! If you've got it....good, and if not....it's time you start!

Fitness Equals Success in All Aspect of You Life, Including Success With Women - Sarcastic and Fun

I can attest to the fact that personal trainers have a sense of humor. Oh, really? you might say. Well, we are and just look at the book we wrote. Talk about sarcasm. So I had a workout buddy that trained with me every day of the week for at least 8 months before he left for the state of Califohhhhnia to pursue his dream of becoming a professional bodybuilder. Venice Beach, California, the Mecca of bodybuilding. Of course, let's not forget about the south of the East coast, where nip/tuck is increasingly popular. Anyway, one day, after ferociously pumping the quadriceps, reaching almost half a ton on the leg press, I hear him yell out "Quadratic Quads." The humor of this rather interesting comment immediately came to my attention. As we know, the quadratic equation in math can represent great dimensions with the right x, y and z's or a, b and c's, and therefore using this phrase for the quads was quite ingenious. I looked at him and told him that it didn't need to stop there: we could go further. What I meant is that the human body has other major muscle groups that we can alliterate using the first letter corresponding to muscle group. We came up with "Bulging Biceps" "Ludicrous Lats," "Gigantic Glutes," "Chiseled Chest/Calves," "Titanic Triceps/Traps,: "Ferocious Forearms," "Death Defying Delts," "Spectacular Shoulders," "Astonishing Abs," "Heavenly Hamstrings." Talk about lame. However, this is what kept us going and pumping even harder.

Most personal trainers I know have some kind of relationship with their clients that I would consider somewhat strange; however, we all share the same desire to make a difference in people's lives. Just take the movie "Pumping Iron," where the members of a gym become a family, and after working out they all go and have lunch. This, I would point out, actually corresponds to their fourth meal of the day, and they still have four more to go. Since working out actually makes you hungry, you need to consume lots of calories to compensate for the lost ones. So you eat more and more without the fear of gaining any weight other than muscle weight.

Personal trainers can be quite competitive as well since they all do their best to garner as many clients as possible to stay as busy as possible. It's healthy competition, though, since a good personal trainer who follows the correct code of conduct will not trespass on someone else's territory unless he is sure that the client is looking for a new trainer. As I mentioned previously, when looking for a personal trainer there is the chance that this particular trainer will not "feel" good to you. Personal trainers understand that and for that reason we always offer a complimentary introductory work out to get the feeling if the personal trainer is right for you. We do not feel offended if you do decide to go for the competitor: it's just a question of the feeling between the client and the trainer. Many times I've had personal trainers come to me wanting to get rid of a customer by having me take them off their hands since they knew I was very patient. Sometimes clients can be quite a challenge, and some trainers are not in the mood to deal with it. It is also possible that both personalities are not in sync with one another. Whatever the reasons, swapping clients happens often between trainers. Many trainers, for money reasons, decide to tough it out. They are in dire need of money so they accept the abuse, because it can be abuse that they get sometimes from a client. This is a rare scenario but I've experienced it.

As personal trainers, we can use our communication skills to share our knowledge with anyone who wants to listen. I had one client, around 22 years of age, who had problems getting to third base, or fourth base-I don't know what they call it these days-but in any case, I am not talking about playing baseball here. As a first-rate, understanding personal trainer, I soon found myself teaching him the skills of working his charm. Let's face it: approaching a woman while having a good-looking body increases your odds of attracting her attention and desire. So my mission, as I wished and obligated myself to accept it, was to be more of a "life coach" to my client rather than just a personal trainer. And that was perfectly fine, because as a personal trainer, you need to wear different hats during your training sessions. You need to diversify by offering your services as a psychologist, psychiatrist, marriage counselor, life coach, fitness coach, charm coach, etc.... In the case of this particular client, I chose to teach him how to make women say "yes" all the time. First, I told him you need to understand women, at which point he looked at me fearfully, like I was from another planet. I know, it's quite hard to pass into that stage of understanding women and what they want, but being a good listener can always put you on their good side. Some women like the guy to be aggressive-not too aggressive-but just enough to show that he is taking the initiative for courtship. Women can say one thing and mean something else. When women advise you not too jump too fast from stage 1: kissing, stage 2: hands on boobs, and stage 3: well, hands down there, I guess she means it and wants you to take your time between these stages. Women are not so interested in jumping in the sack wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am. Women enjoy being teased a little, or a lot, actually. Once you've passed into that comfort level and all, then you can concentrate on the quickies, which are appreciated by women as well.

Lack of one important thing in a sex life is probably the reason for an increase in straying between couples (and it not always the man who strays!): you need to add some spice to your sex life. I told him to change position, if needed, or if healthy enough, because some positions require you to be Gumby or a circus freak. You always need to communicate with the woman during these sessions to actually understand what she wants and needs. She won't always tell you, but you can try to break the ice before she breaks your head with complaints. Believe me, you don't want that.

A woman always likes to hear that you find her beautiful. Always make comments on her looks and body. If she loses weight, make sure to notice it. Basically, giving compliments is always appreciated. Women can be as vain as guys, and women always enjoy hearing how great they look. It is a two way street as well. If women make the effort to look nice and fit, then men need to do the same, and this is why personal trainers exist. Another thing common to all relationships is when couples get way too comfortable with one another. This is where sometimes all hell breaks loose, as well as love handles and huge fat butts. It is easy to let yourself go and forget that your body is your temple. No one should tell you when and where to stop. It's all about making a continual effort to make yourself look good for the woman, especially if she makes the effort to look good.

As I mentioned previously, when a women gets comfortable, she takes the position of the aggressor, and she might be one who wants it "tout de suite" (that is French for "Now, Goddammit!"). When you see a woman grab you by your jewels, I guess you are smart enough to understand what she is looking for, and if you are oblivious to what she wants, well, either go hide in a hole until an asteroid hits the Earth or just ask her!!!!!
Since we've covered the ones that are aggressive, you have to consider the others who do not know how to ask for it or just plain to shy. Understanding a woman will make you more attuned to her needs. Just by looking at her, or better yet, hearing her moans, you can allow her to guide you into what she wants you to do. If she's looking for the man to perform oral, well, the best for you to do is just making the "Survivor" journey down there. By kissing her from neck to breast, to stomach and ribs, the more she moans, the better it is for you to continue. If she is not interested in having you go lower than the waist, she'll simply pull you back up with her hands. Given that no words are exchanged, there's no chance for humiliation for either party.

Lighting is important as well. Women are more liberated in darkness versus sunlight. I'm wondering who the vampire is in this scenario. Most women use darkness to hide some of their, well...defects. Lack of light is always a preferred environment for women, and it should be respected. Believe me, it is to your advantage. Let her do whatever she wants, even if it's to blindfold you. Actually, you should encourage that as it can bring some spice to your sex life. v

Me, Myself and I - Being Yourself Will Attract the Woman You Want

Who are you? Only you know your strengths, your weaknesses, your likes and dislikes. Do you feel good about who you are? Are you a positive person or a negative person? Do you feel the media puts pressure on you to be someone whom you are not? Have you ever been told to put your best foot forward?

A woman wants you, to just be...you. She wants a real guy, not a fake guy. Being yourself and feeling confident about who you are is a major turn on for women. We like guys who are comfortable in their own skin and who send that message to the world. The media constantly bombards men and women alike, every day with messages to look and to act a certain way. Do you really want to be a clone or the unique man you are?

We have all adopted and fallen victim to this kind of thinking and when we pretend to be someone we are not, we usually end up looking like a jerk. Come on confess....I have done it more than once. Now, I have become a "what you see is what you get girl." I have learned to cut to the chase and just be me, myself and I, from the very beginning of a relationship. Some men don't like it and I am okay with that. It weeds out the men I am not compatible with very, very quickly! It saves me the time and the heartbreak of getting close to someone who will only leave me later. Do you really want to go through all the drama that comes with putting on an act? Confident men, who are honest with a woman about who they are, will attract the right woman.

After all, we all desire the ultimate kind of love and acceptance......being loved for who you are, warts and all! It is our basic human instinct and a basic human need. Free yourself from the drama and wasted hours of trying to impress someone who is probably not right for you in the first place. Be yourself from the get go and feel how liberating it is! You will attract the woman you are looking for!

Pickup Lines That Work - Stop Being Scared to Talk to Girls and Use Some Cool Pickup Lines

Don't you wish you just had those perfect pickup lines that work with all girls? I know I use too. It seems like most guys start to shake in their shoes when they get the chance to a pretty girl they are interested in. I am sure you can relate. Just understand that you are normal but also you can break out of this mind state.

A huge suggestion I will give you right now is not to listen to your friends when it comes to picking up girls. Why do I suggest this? Because simply your friends most likely have not been studying the "thoughts" of a women like I have so their tips will most likely be worthless.

If you find yourself not knowing what to say when you approach a women, it is mainly because you are lacking confidence. Without this, you will not get anywhere. Try to begin by building this daily and you will see what happens. Anyway here are some tips you can start using right away.

Have it in your mind that you want to break the ice with something funny. Let me to you this, every girl likes to laugh. I don't care who she is, she enjoys to crack a smile once in a blue. So your job is to go out and make her enjoy your company. Having some silly jokes that will lighten the mood is great. You can find stuff to laugh about by just looking around. Nowadays, everything seems to make me laugh. You just have to notice your surroundings and you will be amazed out of what funny things you will see that will help you break the ice.

Don't be afraid to go up to her and strait out tell her who you are. Why is this a powerful strategy? She will feel you oozing confidence right from the get go. Girls love men with confidence so you are already in good shape if you do this.

Always let a women know that you are a prize to have also. What I mean by this is don't always put yourself out there so aggressively. Try and play the held back game because most of the times this will make them want you more. The reason for this is because every other guy is trying to get in her pants, but not you! There is something different about you.

This will drive her crazy for you, and the best part is you know exactly what your doing and she doesn't!