Better Dates - Will They Hold the Door Open For Others?

Have you ever dated someone and wished you could know if they were right for you? Do you know what qualities you want from them and what that lets you feel? Read on and discover how improving your observational skills may also help to get you better dates.

In this article I want to show you how simple observations can help get you better dates.

By simply practicing this exercise in people watching you will become more observant and more accurate in your reading of people.

Just about everything in life involves communication skills and that includes nonverbal communication and body language. My attitude is that it is easier to learn something when the exercises are fun to do and this can allow you to incorporate the skills as a natural habit.

The next time you go out in a public situation I want you to notice someone that you find attractive and then watch to see what they do.

Bring a book with you and relax and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea and just every so often notice someone and watch what they do. Notice how they move and how they carry themselves. What is it about them that made you notice them? Good reasons, bad reasons, etc.

You may agree that it is best to trust what a person SHOWS about themselves more than what they say and so this exercise will help you to be a better judge of character.

You can observe their behavior and how they treat others. If someone is very critical of themselves and others, it is only a matter of time before YOU become their next target. Do their good qualities balance out this potential negative? Does it matter to you?

This simple people watching exercise will also help you to know what type of partner or partners you really want (besides the obvious "physical" characteristics)

So while you are traveling to and from work and on your lunch break,etc. you can find yourself noticing some attractive person you might want to approach. You do not have to approach them--just notice if they hold the door open for the person behind them.

OR do they just slam their arm out, push the door open, go through the door and leave the door to swing into the next person?

Of course you are capable of opening your own door and paying attention and being aware yet it is a nice thing when someone treats you as a human being.

So if you do not mind someone who may be a bit selfish or inside their own head then you can find a variation of this exercise that screens for the type of person you DO want.

Regardless of what you want, you will find that this method helps you to improve your cold reading tremendously because you will notice the energy of the person, their body language, facial expressions, etc. and become much more accurate about the people you meet at work and at play.

And if you want to find someone to spend time with, date, etc. who will at least notice the people around them and hold a door open for someone behind them, then this simple exercise can help you to find that kind of quality person.

As with most things in life, this works best if you do it yourself---if you hold doors open for those behind you, regardless of whether they are Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt or Woody Allen, or a 90 year old man walking with a cane, then this is a part of who you are and people can tell. If you JUST do this to "appear" a gentleman or lady or seem courteous, etc. it will not have the same positively powerful effect.

Consider what qualities you most want and need in a relationship (work or play) and then how you know you are getting those things you want.

Tip Summary:

1. Make time in your schedule to people watch and notice how they behave.

2. Learn to anticipate their actions and test to see how accurate you are.

3. Improve your accuracy.

A lot of these UNIVERSALS apply to any type of relationship and just about EVERYTHING is some sort of relationship or another. When you are too sick with the Flu to even feel romantic, etc. you will still appreciate someone who is willing to help you feel better. And they deserve the same from you. How many "hot dates" will want to come over and bring you hot chicken noodle soup when you are burning up with 102 degree fever and there are 3 inches of snow on the ground?