Christian Dating Advice - Don't Despair at the End of a Christian Relationship

Not all Christian relationships are meant to last. Just as in the secular world, dating someone doesn't mean you will ultimately marry them; Christians shouldn't expect their first, second or even more relationships to lead to a lifelong commitment. Here is some Christian dating advice for those of you leaving a relationship and what to do next.

It is difficult to deal with the emotions that follow the end of a Christian relationship. You feel rejected and disappointed that you have not found your perfect mate. Do not forget that the end of a relationship does not end God's love for you.

Just because your Christian dating relationship has ended, it does not define you as unlovable. You are simply not loved by one person. You cannot allow this to define who you are, how you feel, and what your life is worth. You need to put this one relationship behind you and go forward with something that has far more lasting value.

As a Christian you can move forward with your relationship with Christ. When you put your trust in him you are welcomed into a global family of believers, a family with Christ as the head. Not being part of a Christian relationship anymore does not change your status in His family. Ephesians 1 tells us that we are blessed 'with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ.' It goes on to say that we were chosen 'before the foundation of the world.'

Understand this and embrace it. You were chosen to be loved by God. No Christian dating relationship can compare to this. You do not have to earn this love. In fact, there is nothing you can do to earn this love. And this love is not the shallow emotion that existed in your relationship. This love is the all encompassing, Agape love experienced only in a personal relationship with Christ Jesus.

And you don't have to hope that you are loved like you do in relationships. You can know that you are loved because God's Word tells you so and you trust in this truth by faith. It is a daily reality in you life and in your heart.

You do not have to walk through life with your heart hanging out just waiting to be broken and discarded. If you do you wind up as a wounded soul because we live in an imperfect world. Instead, place your heart in the care of Christ and He will help you overcome every disappointment, even the end of your relationship.

God's grace and mercy can help your broken heart heal when your relationship ends and help you learn to love again if you accept His help. This is part of the blessings outlined in Ephesians. We can choose to accept His blessings or we can reject them and choose to wallow in our grief. This would be as impractical as owning a nice new warm coat and choosing to freeze to death because you will not wear it.

As a Christian you will still suffer disappointment at the end of a relationship. Your faith is not a barrier against all of life's bumps and bruises. You should remember, however, that as a child of God, these bumps are temporary. You can either allow them to pull you into a pit of despair or you can lean on Him for a season and then let Him lead you to a new Christian dating relationship. It's His will that you not only have life, but 'have life more abundantly'.

As a Christian single, you do not have to crumble into a heap of rejection and despair when your relationship ends. You can instead lean on God to support you in your time of grief and lead you to the person He has chosen for you.