Get Out of the Friend Zone - 4 Tips to Escape the Friend Zone

One of the most difficult situations you can be in, as a man, is to have romantic feelings towards someone while they only see you as a friend. A lot of guys are unaware that, within minutes of meeting a woman, she has sized you up and placed you in either one of two categories: You are either in the possible boyfriend category or you're placed in that dreaded friend zone.

A key right from the outset, to avoiding the friend zone, is to always remain in control. It is human nature to, when you like someone, allow them to have control of a situation. We do this because we want to make that person feel comfortable in our presence. Not knowing that we're up against being sentenced to the friend zone prison from the start, leads many men to make big mistakes with women initially, that ends with them being placed in that friend zone. If you are finding yourself locked away in friend zone purgatory, relax, I am about to show you How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone.

Being sentenced to the Friend Zone Correctional Institute is not always a life sentence. We can turn this around for you.

1. Do Not Be Her BFF

If you want this woman to daydream about you in ways other than what gossip she has to share with you, the first thing you have to do is to NOT allow yourself to be treated like a girlfriend! I know it stinks when you're in this position but, when you are in the friend zone, that is all you really are to her. You have become her male BFF. To escape this position, you have to stop making excuses to call her and hang out with her. Your thoughts that you will eventually win her over, by always being there for her, are naive and foolish! Not gonna happen. Women will only "hang out" with you if they do not feel any sexual tension around you. In other words, they think of you as a girlfriend. They will not "hang out" with the men they're attracted to. Oh no, they date those guys. Big difference, don't you think?

Think of it this way, as long as you are playing the role of BFF, she will always "think of you like a brother". That's her way of sending her attraction for you to the gas chamber!

2. Make Her Know You're Wanted

In simple terms, you need to go out with as many women as you can. When you do this, she will notice that you are wanted by other women and her natural competitive nature will take off. She will want to "prove" to herself that she could have you if she wants you. This happens subconsciously but, believe me, it happens.

Think about it. Have you ever thought someone was okay, not really your type and then, upon finding out how desired they were by others, you all of a sudden became intrigued with the idea of being with that person? I'm sure you have. It is the same logic.

3. Be a Mystery Man

The main cause of your friend zone sentence, and ultimate inability to escape the friend zone, has been your lack of knowlege about attraction. You have been incapable, up to now, of raising her interest and attraction levels. Chances are, this is due to your belief that being the nice guy was the way to go and where has that left you? Many of the alleged experts say, if you get sentenced to the friend zone prison, it's essentially a life sentence. I totally disagree, as I have escaped friend zone prison a few times.

The basic foundation for attraction is mystery. It really is as simple as that. Mystery allows the person you desire the chance to develop some kind of a fantasy about you. If you are ALWAYS with them, share every detail of your life, and allow them to see you for who you really are, then you are allowing them the chance to kill any fantasy they may have about you.

I am not suggesting you hide anything about yourself, or to lie to them, I am simply saying that you should hold back on sharing every aspect of who you are. She has to feel as if she needs to find out more about you. She needs to be intrigued about you. This cannot happen when you are giving it all to her upfront. She has to crave your time and attention. Again, this cannot happen when you are just giving it to her.

4. Be a Challenge For Her

This is yet another element of attraction. Nothing easily gained is appreciated. In order to get out of the friend zone, you need to make the woman you want think that she will need to earn your respect and adoration. You do this by teasing her. This is also known as "Qualifying". When you qualify someone, you are subconsciously making them think that they have to prove their value to you. This makes them feel as if they are beneath you in society and that having a relationship with you would improve their life somehow. An example of qualifying is to say something like, "I'll bet you're a terrible kisser". Something slightly negative about her. This does two things. It makes her doubt her own status in society and it makes her place you above her because, subconsciously, you're saying to her, "I've kissed a lot of women and I probably wouldn't enjoy it with you". It would make her want to prove to herself that she is good enough.

If you follow those 4 rules, you will find that it is possible to get out of the friend zone, even if you have been stuck there for years.