How to Flirt For Flirting's Sake

Did you know that even if you are happily ensconced in a healthy relationship that a little bit of flirting can add spice to your life? I'm not talking about the kind of overt flirting someone does when they are trying to get in your pants. I'm talking about that little hint of a smile when you pass an attractive stranger on the street or that little bit of extra eye contact you give the café owner when she hands you your cappuccino.

A good flirt knows that at its heart flirting is just appreciating people of the opposite gender in every encounter. It doesn't mean you want to get together with them, it doesn't even mean you are attracted to them. It means you are appreciating something about them. It could be their kind smile, their helpful way or their intelligence.

Flirting is an art form with some science thrown in for good measure.
It involves instinct, but it also takes some knowledge of what makes people tick. For instance, even a rudimentary understanding of body language can aid you in the flirting game.

Did you know that when a woman is interested in you and what you are saying, her legs and feet will be pointing toward you? If she is not interested, they will be pointing away, most likely toward the door.

And did you know that when a woman catches your eye and then glances slightly down and away that she is flirting with you?

French people are the perfect example of how to flirt. They genuinely appreciate all the differences between the genders. They acknowledge these differences and like them. It takes some Americans off guard at first. But truly it must spice up the relationships they currently have to know that that baker has a special word or smile for them each day or when a beautiful woman catches a man's eye as she walks by and gives him a subtle nod of approval.

This type of flirting doesn't hurt a healthy relationship; it helps it by increasing both parties self esteem. When you feel good about yourself, you are able to give more to others and enjoy life more. And if you are seeking that perfect someone, honing your flirting skills with everyone you meet will come in handy when "the one" shows up in your life and you want to meet her.

Adding a little flirtation to your everyday relationships is just another way to appreciate the small things in life. That extra bounce in your step, that smile on your lips will become contagious and spread like wildfire. When you feel good about yourself you attract others who want what you have. They want to feel good about themselves as well and just being around you helps them do that. If you are not in a relationship, then ultimately, this ability will help you when you do find someone you want to get to know better.

Flirting has received a bad rap over the years, but when it is done the right way - without trying to harm anyone else, it can be a thing of beauty.