Starting a New Relationship - 8 Key Points Towards Happiness

There is no better feeling than finding a new love. All of a sudden the whole world is beautiful and it belongs just to the two of you. You see your partner as perfect, and you want to spend every single minute together. The question is, why are there so many relationships that end up a disaster? Where do they go wrong? The answer is, at the very beginning. When two people are in love, they are not being themselves. They try all their best to be someone their partner loves. They also happily accept their partners' mistakes as the new flame is burning bright.

However, there is only so much human can take, only so much they can fake. After awhile their expectations raise, and they start seeing each other's low points. There are humps and hurdles even in the so called 'perfect' relationships. No two people are the same and therefore, there will be disagreements at some stage. However, these 8 key points are usually the biggest causes of a relationship break up, which you can assess when starting a new relationship to avoid heartache down the line. It is possible to adjust to these differences, but the extreme ones normally lead to disaster.

1. Background People's backgrounds determine how they view life. Someone from a wealthy background see things differently from those raised in poverty. People grow up in big cities are accustomed to different things from those grow up in countrysides. People with abusive parents behave differently from those with loving family. Extreme difference in background may cause lots of disagreements.

2. Culture There are lots of things to be adjusted when you and your partner are from different cultures. The things you like and the way you do things are often not the same. As an easy example, if you are a vegetarian and your partner is a meat lover, it will not be as easy as if you both are of the same 'type'.

3. Future goal This is critical if you are looking into long term relationship. Do the two of you share the same goal and vision? If you would want a commitment and have children someday, make sure your partner wants it too.

4. Personality There are people who try to avoid arguments whenever possible and able to turn situations around. They are easy going and take things lightly. There are others who take things seriously and tend to be perfectionist. Some people enjoys romantic relationship, where you take your partner to nice dinners and give them roses to show how much you love them. Some think those are a waste of money. Compatibility in this area is crucial so make sure you are able to accept your partner the way they are, or do yourself a great favor by not getting involved to start with.

5. Age Do you notice that sometimes your parents think in weird way? They in return also think that you are the one being weird. What is the problem? People in different age groups have different ways of thinking. If you and your partners have very big age gap, it is possible that you feel unconnected at times.

6. Religious view Some people take it light, some take it very seriously. Religions are faith based and not proven sciences. Two people with strong, different religious views may have hard time if they start bringing up those views to the surface.

7. Intelligence People with similar intelligence levels get along better. They are easier to communicate and to understand each other. Big difference in intellectual levels may cause frustration when partners find it hard to understand each other's way of thinking.

8. Interest It is a nice thing if you and your partner share the same interests or hobbies so you can do fun activities together. If one enjoys outdoor activities and the other prefers relaxing at home, the lack of togetherness can sometimes lead to problems.